What could be more disappointing than finally unwrapping your brand new dildo, proceeding to slowly insert it into your vagina or asshole - only to find that your sexual ecstasy ruins because it doesn't fit?
It may seem impossible to overcome a dildo that doesn't fit properly.
If you use the toy to penetrate yourself vaginally, you may naturally think "I'm just too small," "I'm just too tight," or "I'm just too shallow," especially if you use the toy vaginally. Perhaps you are considering simply giving up on using toys to penetrate yourself, or perhaps you feel like you have no other choice but to purchase a smaller dildo. It's not too late - don't give up!
The vagina has an extremely high degree of elasticity. Doesn't it have to be that way in order to have the capacity to deliver the entire baby?
As large as an average watermelon, even the tiniest babies weigh several pounds. There are very few vaginas in the world that cannot stretch several inches and can "snap" back to their original tight "default" state once penetration or expulsion is complete, other than those in rare medical conditions.
It is our intention to focus primarily on vaginal penetration with dildos in this article. A thinner, smaller dildo is generally recommended when performing anal penetration - even though the anus is capable of stretching, preparation is usually necessary before doing so. You can find more information here about using a dildo anally.
As a result, your clit can stretch to fit for that dildo - it just might not happen at onece. A dildo that does not fit at first is not the result of an insufficient amount of lube, an inadequate preparation, or muscle tension caused by nervousness or stress, with the exception of a few distinct medical conditions. It can be caused by any number of temporary, very fixable issues, such as insufficient lube, inadequate preparation, or muscle tension.
To rectify the issue, take your time, perform relaxation exercises, and include a lot of foreplay before slowly and gently penetrating. To identify a potential medical source of your discomfort, you should see a trained doctor or gynecologist in a few rare cases.
To ease your dildo into your living space as smoothly and comfortably as possible, we've put together this guide to guide you how to play and feel stimulating.
With our store, we aim to combat the widespread myth that women have "too small" or "too tight" vaginas, promoting a safe, joyful and, of course, pleasurable experience of body-shaking, mind-melting orgasms!
Your Vagina Is Not That Tight
It is largely a myth that 'small vaginas', along with variants like 'narrow vaginas' or 'shallow vaginas', exist. The most common feature of almost all vaginas is that when properly aroused, the vagina expands.
When not aroused, most vaginas are around 2 to 4 inches in length, while when properly aroused, they can double or even triple in depth. While there is no true "average", scientists believe most vaginas are between 2 and 4 inches in length when not aroused. In order to prevent infection and prevent fluids such as menstrual blood from exiting too quickly, the muscles keep the vagina small - often nearly "closed" - when it is not being penetrated.
There is also a tight ring of muscle in the anus or asshole, the "anal sphincter," which keeps us from messing ourselves up during the day. A person's vagina opens wide, stretches, and accepts a dildo, penis, or a variety of other objects and toys when aroused, as the muscles keeping it "tight" relax.
It's okay if you do not feel that your vagina is large enough to accommodate a dildo.
Nerves, stress, and muscle tension might be contributing to your discomfort. You may simply be unaware of how and when to loosen your vaginal muscles for insertion if you have never engaged in penetrative sex or masturbation with dildo or other penetrative toys.
With relaxed muscles, a dildo of virtually any size can be comfortably inserted, and tension and stress can quickly be transformed into euphoric pleasure! Please keep reading this article to learn more about relaxation techniques.
How Much Do You Know About the Hymen?
Myths and misinformation surrounding the hymen are as prevalent as myths about the "small vagina."
In essence, the hymen is just another body part - a covering for your vagina, which may keep it clean and free from infection, especially when you are a young woman who hasn't yet learned how to clean it properly. The hymen, however, has unfortunately become something much bigger than it is over the course of human history - in particular, has become a source of shame and judgment for women and other vaginal-possessing humans worldwide over the course of many centuries of human history.
Hymen myths: Hymens determine whether a woman is a virgin based on their presence or absence.
For penetrative sexual intercourse to occur, the hymen must be broken, which covers the entire vaginal opening. A woman's "first time" is always painful and uncomfortable because the hymen "breaks." This is the reason why the procedure is inevitably accompanied by pain and bleeding.
The statements listed above are all false. Your virginity, or lack thereof, does not have anything to do with whether or not you have a hymen.
It is common for vagina owners to not even have one in the first place because of the size and thickness of hymens. A person's "virginity" shouldn't imply anything about their worth or identity: who they are is not determined by the number of penises or other objects they have inside their vagina.
A hymen's elastic nature means they don't cover the entire vaginal opening, so if your vagina is penetrated, they simply stretch rather than tear.
It is unlikely that severe pain or bleeding will result if the woman is properly aroused and has taken all appropriate precautions during sexual intimacy or masturbation with a dildo. Horseback riding, rock climbing, mountain biking, and other non-sexual activities are among the activities that can damage hymens completely unrelated to sex.
During one of these activities, a small amount of bleeding can occur, but it usually only involves a few drops of blood and causes minimal pain.
The first time you use a dildo on yourself, you may feel your hymen stretching. You may tear a small portion of it when you first try to penetrate it, depending on its size or thickness.
Several drops of blood may be visible. It is also possible that your hymen will simply stretch around any size dildo, since it is thin and elastic.
Few people with vaginal access might have an unusually thick or inelastic hymen (unable to stretch) or a hymen covering most or all of the opening.
It is possible that you are one of these individuals if you feel something sturdy and unyielding inside your vagina when you explore it with your fingers. A trained medical professional is recommended in this case in order to rectify the probGynecologists should be referred to you by your general practitioner.gist.
A simple surgical procedure can quickly and easily diagnose and correct these imperforate or microperforated hymens that may cause discomfort during sexual intercourse or penetrative masturbation.
What Happened?
You don't have to worry about your hymen and your vagina isn't too small or shallow. The dildo, however, won't fit, so your masturbation attempts are still frustrating.
In that case, the problem should not be a size issue, nor should it be medical.
There is almost always one word you can use to answer this question: TENSION. Before trying to penetrate yourself with a dildo, you have not allowed your vaginal muscles to relax properly.
In order to resolve this issue, you should first allow your body to properly relax before attempting to penetrate anything.
You deserve it. Make the atmosphere relaxing and arousing. During foreplay, take your time and be tender. Give your body the love it deserves and learn more about it! In response, it will accept your choice of dildo comfortably and openly.
There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to finding what relaxes you and/or arouses you. Understanding what works for YOU is the most important thing.
In the sections below, we've provided some tips and suggestions, but they may not be sufficient for you. Learning what relaxes and turns on your body is all about getting to know yourself. We'd love to hear about your favorite technique! Include it in our list if it works for you, and if it doesn't, please let us know!
Our valued customers are always willing to share their sexy tips with us. If you're lucky, your suggestion might even appear in an article like this one one day!
Following are some of our favorite tips, straight from our Realdildos staffers, on how to get in the mood and accept a dildo easily in your vagina!
Take Your Time
Make sure you don't just sit on your bed and thrust your vagina with the dildo. You don't think that sounds very sexy, do you? That is certainly not the case! The phrase sounds rather clinical, dull, and boring, turning masturbation with a dildo into something "quick and dirty" that can be dealt with quickly and efficiently. The last thing we want is that!
In order to prepare for fun times with your favorite dildo, you should create a romantic, erotic atmosphere.
A variety of methods are available for achieving this. Consider dimming the lights or turning them off completely. Make your home smell great by lighting candles or incense. Bathe in a long, hot, luxurious bath, maybe with your favorite scented soaps, lotions, or bubble bath. We recommend playing soft, instrumental music to set the mood.
Save the dildo play for afterward, when your body is feeling good and loose, if you wish to spring for an extra treat. You can also ask your partner to massage you, especially the hips, thighs and lower back (also located near your genitals and affected by tension in the vagina).
Just Start to Enjoy
Getting yourself good and aroused comes next after you're relaxed. When you are more aroused, your vagina will feel more relaxed - as well as moister, which means the dildo will slip in even easier than you expected.
Slow, long foreplay sessions are best for this. Throughout the day, remain relaxed. It's important not to rush. Setting a timer or imposing a deadline will only hinder your progress. If you want to burn that sweet burning in your core slowly over several minutes or even hours, allow your body to move at its own pace.
Your chances of remaining relaxed and untense will be much higher if you are already aroused when the dildo starts playing a part. Whether you rub your nipples, stroke your clitoris, or finger yourself, use whatever foreplay strategies you find most pleasing.
Take your time. It's absolutely fine to take your time. The time has been set aside for you to be the star. All the way through, make sure that you remember what is important to you, what makes you sexy, what makes you valid, and that this is all about you!
You might want to get yourself off a few times. The idea might seem strange at first, as if it were counter-intuitive - wouldn't the whole point of this exercise be to use the dildo on yourself to get off? Of course, that's the ultimate goal, but not necessarily the only one (the real goal is simply "feeling good"), so it's entirely possible to experience orgasms before putting on the dildo.
An individual with a vagina may experience up to five orgasms during a single masturbation or sex session, depending on the individual. Dildo's tender ministrations make it possible to have a second or even a third experience after getting yourself off with your fingers or a small bullet vibrator.
Furthermore, you'll be more relaxed when it comes to penetration if you've had an orgasm before the dildo is introduced. You will be open and receptive to what your favorite dildo has to offer as a result of the surge of endorphins and "happy hormones" that come along with orgasm.
Lube Is Important
Lube has probably worn you out by this point. This site mentions it in just about every article. Your mind might be racing with questions. As important as lube is, we only put so much emphasis on it because of its importance. There is no doubt that lube makes sex and masturbation a more comfortable and pleasurable experience than anything else.
Dildo penetration will be painless, tension free, and tension-free if natural lubrication is produced by the vagina. Unfortunately, many women make the mistake of assuming their vagina produces enough lubrication to handle tension, stress, and pain. This is often not the case, unfortunately.
There is no one way to determine how much natural lubrication you produce. It may even be affected by factors such as recent illness, hydration, menstrual cycle, menopause, stress, mental health, and even the relative humidity of your area.
Additionally, natural juices tend to disappear mid-penetration and take longer to be absorbed than synthetic lubes. As even the most realistic materials are usually hard, firm, and rigid, this is more likely to happen when you play around with a dildo.
It does not mean you will be able to take a penis or dildo every time, even if you have previously done so using only your natural fluids.
It's always a good idea to keep plenty of lube on hand! - Always keep a back-up on hand. You are less likely to tense up during penetration if you use lube to make the whole experience softer, smoother, and more comfortable.
Not all lubes are created equal - be sure you use the right kind!
The lubricant that you use with a dildo should be thicker, silicone-based, as it stays wet longer and will become less sticky or tacky than water or oil-based alternatives. You should most definitely not use any lube that contains silicone if you are using a dildo made from silicone. Dildo breaks down and rapidly degrades in quality due to silicone reacting poorly with itself.
Try buying lots of different types of lube and experimenting if you are unsure which type is best or which you will prefer.
If you're unsure about which kind of lube will work, many sex toy shops offer "sample-size" amounts perfect for testing out. One - or more - will eventually appear! - Lube types that work best for you.
Which Kind of Dildos Should You Choose?
Even the heaviest and thickest of dildos can penetrate your vagina safely and comfortably with proper arousal and relaxation. The fact that such a large toy might be able to be started does not necessarily mean that you will be able to do so.
It may be best to start off with a shorter, thinner dildo before moving up to a larger one if you are less experienced with dildo masturbation.
There is no need to despair if you have already purchased a
large dildo that doesn't quite fit correctly!
Every single person on staff at Realdildos owns more than one of these incredibly versatile toys, including most of the dildo lovers. Each of us has a unique selection of dildos that will suit our needs on a particular day or at a particular time, and there is no one "perfect dildo" for everyone!
There are a number of factors ranging from hormones to weather that can affect natural lubrication, muscle tightness, or even general levels of arousal or "horniness". At different points of the menstrual cycle, body sensitivity and hormone levels change dramatically for those with vaginal discharge.
Know Well About Your Dildo and Body
Next, I would like to suggest something that may appear counter-intuitive at first. It makes sense that the longer you wait to get to the actual penetration, the more nervous you will become, don't you think?
That's actually not true, as studies have shown. In fact, quite the contrary! You will become more relaxed and capable of becoming aroused if you take some time to familiarize yourself with a dildo, just as you would with a partner's body.
You'll feel more like welcoming an old friend inside when you accept the dildo inside your body rather than prodding it around.
Get to know the dildo inside and out with your fingers. Experience the feeling of its ridges and creases against your skin. Do you like the way the tip feels? Which parts of your body may feel the most comfortable rubbing against your clit, your outer lips, or your G-spot?
Your hand should be firmly and securely gripped around the base. During your masturbation session, try different grips until you find one that is comfortable and that you can maintain for the duration of the session without feeling sore, sore, or cramping. We know it looks silly, but try a few mock thrusts in the air! - to become familiar with the dildo's movement and weight in your hands.
Pay special attention to sensitive spots on your body other than your genitals when you use the dildo tip. It can be applied to the neck, the nipples, or the stomach.
Try doing this in front of a mirror if you feel comfortable with it so you can become accustomed to the feel of the dildo! We know you look downright stunning like that, so tell yourself you are sexy!
Dildo is the perfect tool for practicing oral skills! Dildos are a great way to feel more comfortable with oral sex, regardless of whether you intend to have or not engage in oral sex with someone.
The unique shape and texture of it will become intimately familiar to you as you learn how it feels and tastes. If your dildo is brand new, we recommend washing it before using. This will remove any potential "plasticky" taste it may have.
Check out our article here for more information on using your dildo to practice deep throating!